There is a reason....

Never did I think it would be possible to be this tired again! I mean I am as tired as I was when I was a new mom, like new born baby tired. You know what I am talking about- those first few months of life when you don't know how you even functioned or how you even took care of the other children if you had them you were THAT tired. Yep that is how tired I am. And its not due to lack of sleep either, thankfully the dogs are finally sleeping through the night. Its because I am seriously on the move from 5am until 10pm every single day with NO help what so ever, and we are a busy little family. Man oh Man.

A friend recently told me that I needed to TELL my family members that lived close by that they needed to help me more, that it was their duty to help me now. See, I have a problem with that. Sure, I have no problem asking for help now and again if I need help with a pick up or if I really can't be in 2 places at once, etc etc. But the bottom line is THEY are my kids, this is MY family, and all this is MY responsibility. It may come down to the fact that we may have to make some adjustments to schedules or cut some things out to make things manageable, but it really is not my parents or my siblings responsibility or obligation to be running my kids around because all of a sudden I am a single mom. Besides they do still have a dad! And he is helping out too when he is willing and able!

Bottom line is this my fellow moms, there is a reason why WE are the mommies! LOL... there is a reason why we are the ones that are the sleep deprived during infancy, a reason why we are the ones they cry out to when they are scared, a reason why we are called "the helper" in the bible, and the reason why we can juggle all those balls in the air at one time... Because we are MOMS... we are awesome... and I may not have this single mom gig down pat yet, and I may be tired as all get out, but I know one thing for sure- I wouldn't trade this gig or this tiredness for one less day with these babies for anything... I love my kids and one day they will look back and know that everything I did, everything I gave up, every struggle I and they went through, was for the good, and for the glory of God, and all of us will be stronger because of it.

So no I will not TELL my extended family that they need to pick up the slack, this is my family, and we will work it out, we have a big God behind us, and yes I know they will help us and they are more then willing to help us when we ask, but we have to figure this new life out on our own as well. And we can do and we will do it and we will do it with the amazing SUPPORT of that family.